It’s true I don’t have close relationship with my half sister and being raised as an only child did leave me lonely for companionship. However when I was fortunate to make friends they became like my little tribe of sisters like time my sisters have change over circumstances, moving, or through working together. No matter what has transpired between us they are my tribe because you should be able to surround yourself with people who make you feel like you. They are my sisters through the good, the bad and even the ugly, they are my tribe and we are there for each other. Do we always get along, no, like most sisters we fight and argue but we do eventually make up for the most part.
My first sister came to me as cousin, she was little shadow for the longest time. She the main reason why I moved from British Columbia to Saskatchewan fourteen years ago. I probably wouldn’t have moved so far if it wasn’t for her, I miss living with her though. It’s sad she never grew to love the prairies like I did and moved back to our hometown. She has this infectious laugh and temper and sometimes we butt heads but there would be reminiscents between us. However nearly any chance I get to go home am always at her door and am quickly greeted in.
My next sister I didn’t want…a friend that was. For I had just mucked up working friendship by being a little callous, when on one summers night we ended up having to work the same shift. I was doing all my best not to communicate more than I had to….big fat lost on my part! We soon hit it off and Saturday lunches became on thing among a lot of other common interest. Our friendship has crossed waters and even though she is overseas and happily married we have our biweekly talks still. We have overcome a lot things together like friendship that didn’t last and her going off to Sweden for school but we have handled it with grace.
My next two sisters also came from my recent job and we bonded from miscommunication which almost tore us apart before our friendship began but we over came that and our craziness is what keeps us going. When we go for coffee we basically cancel the rest of our afternoon because who goes on ten minute coffee dates with friends?! Even though it’s a lot harder to meet now that we don’t work together we are still in the same city and we still have long coffee dates. We argue like sisters and might not talk for weeks but when we get together psychos we become( I say the later part with respect)
She is not my last sister but she is the oldest and the one out of the group to keep me in line. We bonded easy when we both lost our moms so when not many understand grief or it process we can. She has rooted for me for graduating, for all the mountains I’ve had to climb she has been there. She can be annoying like an older sister but she can be there like no other one can. She always has her wisdom and creativity and we have bonded over that. We love our day trips to the beach, or going to rock and gem shows, she’s the big sister I never got to know.
There have been other sisters who have come into my life, some are more acquaintances now because of situations or circumstances. Other we have had fallen out and looks to not mend the our relationship. I still do treasure what friendship we had. There is one that has only ended because of her sudden and very much unexpected passing and I do miss her. No matter what time has passed or what has come between us we are friends and they are my tribe of sisters. They are not my forever rocks and they are just people I know, they have come and enriched my life, I only hope that I have done the same.